Children are the most amazing creatures in the world, but it’s sad at how they can improvise ways to drive someone crazy. When your child gets defiant as a parent, it’s heartbreaking since it drains all the effort you put on a daily basis to teach your child the right things and disciplining them when they go astray.
In order to develop a solution to a problem, it is recommendable to identify what preceded it and what comes after it.
Three Important Aspects of Any Behavior That You Should Know:
These are the factors that make a behavior more or less likely to occur. They are referred to as triggers. Knowing what the trigger of a certain behavior is important in helping you prevent the behavior.
This is the specific actions you are trying to discourage
These are the results or a behavior which have the ability to affect the likelihood of the behavior recurring. The more immediate the consequences are, the more effective they are.
The Common Behavior Problems and Solutions
Children create stories as a way of trying to get attention while others lie to avoid getting into trouble. Although far-fetched stories may not be harmful, lying can develop into a bad habit, and it’s your duty as a parent to teach your child to always say the truth no matter the consequences.
When your child lies on your face, do not take it personally. Try and understand it from the child’s perspective. Most children lie when scared of the consequences. Try and appreciate the positives instead of punishing negative behavior so as to prevent your child from lying.
- Set consequences for lying.
- Teach them to be honest.
- Be a role model of honesty
Defiance and Non-Compliance
It is annoying when your child intentionally fails to follow instructions. Although it’s normal for children to test limits at one time or another, this behavior could develop into a terrible behavior.
- Give effective instructions
Make sure your instructions are clear and that your child heard them right. Establish eye contact while giving directions. You should also be consistent with the consequences set when your child fails to comply with the rules.
- Offer choices
Giving choices to your child will make him feel that he have control of the decisions that affect his life. This also prevents situations where the child will say no to what you have asked them to do.
- Create a reward system
By rewarding your child whenever they comply with the set rules will motivate them to listen and follow instructions.
Laziness and Lack of Motivation
At times children get lazy even to make their bed or complete their homework. When your child is unmotivated and lazy, it can be hard to get them motivated
- Don’t let your child’s behavior overwhelm you. Just give them a break
- Tell them stories about your childhood and what you loved doing back then and encourage them to try something new
- Do not force your child to take up a hobby they don’t like; otherwise, they will always seem unmotivated
- Take a step back and try and find out why they are unmotivated. Maybe you are too pushy, and its drain them of their energy.
- Find a way to get your children motivated on their own. Self-motivation will go a long way that pushing them.
Most children use whining as a technique to get what they want which could develop into an awful behavior. This annoying behavior often leads to one submitting to the child’s demand. However, giving in to such demands is a bad idea since the child will see that she has the power to get what she want by whining.
- Establish a rule about whining
- Remain calm and don’t give in
It is humiliating when a child shouts rude words, especially in a public place since the parents are perceived to be ignorant. Kids may use abusive language to bring you into an argument or get their way out of a situation.
- Do a soul search and ensure you are not using such language in front of your kids
- Do not tolerate use of verbal abuse at home
- Let your child know the consequences of verbal abuse and ensure you are consistent with the consequences
Bedtime Behavior Problems
The typical bedtime behavior problems include; refusing to stay in bed, insisting on sleeping with you, or won’t sleep at all. Lack of sleep may lead to other problems, and the solutions include;
- Develop bedtime rules
- Create healthy bedtime habits such as limiting screen time before bed