Children under the age bracket of 2 years are very curious and want to get their hand on everything. They are set to test out different behaviors and crave for their own independence.
The terrible twos could start before your child attains two years and could extend past the age of three. You will definitely do not have control on when this phase starts, but there are various strategies you can use to deal with this traumatizing stage
Understanding Why the Twos are Terrible
When this phase catches up with your child, you will note the difference since your sweet child who was always smiling is no longer as sweet as he used to be. He starts developing some terrible behaviors such as biting, hitting, ignoring you and defying you.
This is the stage where your child starts to develop his connection with the surrounding nature. You don’t have to worry that there is something you doing wrong since you have no control of what happens during this stage.
There is so much that your child has to learn and he is just discovering that the world is not all about him and this could be frustrating for him. It is also at this stage that he realizes that he can have a choice on what he what to do and make his own decisions.
The fact that he has so much he would love to say and do and does not have the words and the ability to do them could be frustrating which leads to frequent tantrums.
However, during this stage do not be so harsh on yourself; you are a great parent, and this phase will be over before you realize it. The only thing you need to do is offer a lot of hugs to your children and reassure them that you are there to help them and you love them no matter what.
Every behavior that your child portrays is usually triggered by something, and it’s important to know the cause of your child’s behavior since it will help you prevent its occurrence in the future. If your child is hungry, bored, or tired, he is likely to throw a tantrum.
Hence when you are carrying out your daily chores ensure you have snacks such as cheese cubes, crackers, grapes or any healthy snacks to keep your child from having hunger pangs. Make their meal intake regular. You can easy notice when your child is hungry since in most cases he will start rubbing his eyes.
It is also important to have enough rest. There should be routine naps that will allow your child to have rejuvenated energy. This prevents boredom which could lead to tantrums.
When you set routines, your child will be able to adjust to the schedule smoothly, and the fact that he knows what he is supposed to do after one activity will prevent chances of him resisting.
Dealing with Negative Behaviors
As much as you can prevent the occurrence of negative behaviors, there is a possibility that they will still occur Hence, when you find yourself in such situations there is always a way out. For instance
When your child breaks one of the set rules, you should incorporate the set consequences. Do not give in just because your child has thrown a tantrum since he will manipulate you into giving him whatever he wants.
This will help your child to calm down and control his emotions.
Children love when they are in control of deciding what they want to do thus; by giving him a choice, he will get to do what he want, and still you will get him to do what you wanted him to do. This also prevents chances of his saying no to your request.
Praise Good Behavior
Acknowledge when your child does something right or completes an assignment. This will encourage him to follow instructions consistently. You can also incorporate a rewarding system for every time that he follows the rules. Ensure that the reward is something he likes.
The more you listen to your child the more likely they will listen to you. Always try to pay attention to what your child is trying to say and seem interested. If your child feels ignored, he will also ignore you when you are giving instructions.
All in all, as much as this period can get overwhelming, it is still possible to minimize the headaches by trying out some of the stated tips. Do not get it over your head, though, do your best and this phase will fade away with time. All the best!